Positive Conflicts: Focusing the mind on the positive

Positive Conflicts: Focusing the mind on the positive

PROMISE YOURSELF

The following was first written by Christian D. Larson in 1912 and was adopted in a slightly altered form by the Optimist International organization as the “Optimist Creed.”

Larson was an influential New Thought leader and teacher. He was a prolific writer and an influence over the Religious Science leader and founder, Ernest Holmes. In honor of a great mind, here is the original version of “Promise Yourself.”

PROMISE YOURSELF by Christian D. Larson

· To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
· To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.
· To make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
· To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
· To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
· To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
· To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
· To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet.
· To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
· To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
· To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud work, but in great deeds.
· To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Some of the greatest prosperity teachers and writers came from the era of the late 1800’s and the first half of the 1900’s. They all knew the Secret of the ages, which is what you think, you get. Florence Scovel Shinn’s books are some of my favorites and can be purchased on Amazon.com.

WHEN OUR PERSONAL GOALS ARE LOST, WE ARE LOST!



Sometime in your adult years, you finally get to the point in your life where you realize that you are deeply unhappy and for the life of you, cannot figure out why. The more you try to identify what is wrong with you, the more confused you get.

All looks in order: you have a good education, a nice job, some good friends, and the bills get paid…but in the personal field you see a litter trail of failed relationships. People enter your life, and for some reason or other, they leave. Then, you have this long weekend coming up, dream of going on a trip, or doing something funny with close friends and find a vacuum around you!

What is going on? You have tapped a well of loneliness inside you that you never knew was so deep! Now, you know that something is wrong, and doing things with your friends is never enough to compensate this feeling. Getting drunk doesn’t help either, because the morning after, you still remember… So, now, you allow yourself to realize you have some deep feelings, mainly negative feelings like loneliness, isolation, and rejection inside you?

All looks bleak, and nothing is exciting as before, kind of a revelation of your deep hurt inside. Some other days, you forget, have fun and enjoy what you have…only to feel dumped again into this negative hole…this is your personal, inevitable emotional roller coaster.

Is life supposed to be like this? Looking at the mirror, do you find yourself wishing for some change, whatever change it can be, so to move you away of this well of negativity?




Example A: I just know that I want to make some positive changes to my life. I am doing a job that does absolutely nothing for me. Unfortunately I really do not know what I would really like to do. I have tried to find what I love to do and sad to say I just do not know what that is. I seem to be at a standstill and don't know where to turn. But I do know that I need some support to even begin to make a start on changing, so that I feel that I am living in my life, because I don't feel that I am actually in it at the moment.

Example B: Everyday on my drive to work I think how great it would be to do something else, but what that is, I don't know...I don't even know at this point what would make me happy...I don't absolutely hate my job, but it does not fulfill me in any way, shape, or form...I think I should be doing something that is meaningful to both me and other people, having a job that would bring me joy and excitement would be an absolute gift. Maybe I should explore some things about myself as far as likes and dislikes, what am I good at, what were my dreams as a child or young adult…where do I begin? And what happened with my enthusiasm for life?


One day after so much thinking and pondering the answer to this dilemma, you finally decide to find the answer to "Why am I like this?"

Actually, you decide it, when you realize that even when you are so lucky as to have someone who listens to you sharing your sense of emptiness, you tend to lash out at those who only are actually trying to understand you. You show your need for connection by doing some caustic comment or verbal aggression, which leaves you even more unconnected...That’s a real eye opener!

So, now, what do you do? You don’t feel like going to a shrink, you don’t want a medical solution and pills will do as much as alcohol, right? What you feel that you need is to learn emotional self-management. You want a safe way of turning away from repressing and burying your emotions inside. Over all, you need to recover a sense of excitement with your own purpose in life!


Perhaps you want a life coach?

What is a life coach for? Let’s remember what a life coach can help you with:


identify the source of your negative feelings
connect with the childhood situation that generate those feelings
work on acceptance/ integration of the past story into your present
recognize what unhelpful behaviors are now generated by this story
learn new ways to connect with the people you love
stop automatic negative reactions and be always centered in your goals
better expression of deep emotions connected with relationships

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